Moving to a new city, going to a new office, meeting new people and living in a different place can all be a challenge. Juggling all of them at the same time adds many levels of complexity, and that is definitely something worth talking about.
This might feel like the premiere of a new season in the TV show that's your life. And it definitely is. How you are going to take it is completely up to you. The hardest part, at least for me, and most likely for you, is going to be those first weekends when you don’t know a lot of people. Maybe you’re used to having a lot of different plans with different people. That’s alright, as long as you keep an open mind and relax about it, eventually plans will come to you, if not, take the initiative.
I just moved to a new city for a job opportunity, and my experience so far has been incredible. To be completely honest, this is not my first time. I had already moved to a new city for college, but it is extremely different doing it in school. I am older and hopefully a bit more mature this time. Not that it makes it any easier, but the approach is completely different. In my case, I took this step because the opportunity was great and I seized it. Also, I believe we shouldn’t be grounded to just one place forever. When an opportunity comes to you, give it some thought before taking the final decision. In my case, the hardest part was weekends. Why? You might be wondering. Because I have a lot of free time on weekends, and I was used to always having something to do and sometimes even different choices to pick from. That, thankfully, is only temporary.
In the meanwhile a few tips that might come in handy.
- Keep yourself busy. It might be taking a yoga class, going to the gym, maybe there is a park near your place where you can go and take a walk.
- Say yes. When invited somewhere (unless it is something you truly know you won’t enjoy) give it a chance, who knows, you might have a great time.
- Find things you like. If you enjoy going to the movies, or ordering ramen, find places that you like for those things in your new city. The faster you start getting familiar with the zone, the easier it will be for you to feel at home again.
- Find people with similar hobbies. It can be at your workplace, your apartment building or maybe even in a park. But if you meet someone that you share a hobby with, talk to them, they could have more in common with you than you know.
- Take the initiative. Sometimes it is easier to find new circles by creating them. Throw a welcome party for yourself, ask people to lunch, go with people to a bar. Start creating those opportunities for yourself.
These are just some tips that could help you. Overall, just remember: people do this all the time, people survive, and it is temporary. It might take a couple of weeks or even a few months, but the faster you start to take action about it, the easier it will be to adapt.
Just keep swimming. Eventually, you’ll feel at home and everything will fall into place. Enjoy the ride, open your mind, find new people, get to know different places. In the end, that’s what life is all about.